Love?
I was talking to one of the young officers working with me today and something he said inspired this article. For once the word LOVE in the title isn't associated with another puppy love of mine heh. I'm still holding out for my true love to drop outta sky ^^
Anyway, did i mention that he shared with me sometime last week that he's losing it? As in he feels that he's turning into a sex freak soon, and that i'm not to be surprised if his face shows up on the papers one day for molest of rape or something along those lines... Yup, a true blue poly-kia who's still a virgin at 21. Not bad huh? For a non-Christian especially. But too much porn and too much exposure to stories that people tell about their sexual escapades is getting to him >.< From what i know, his girlfriend's a good girl who he does't want to defile... So much so that he's ALMOST ready to find someone other than her to DO IT...
Well, i shared my experience with him, and hopefully that'll keep him intact for a while more.
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So back to today. Over a normal conversation over lunch with the rest of the guys, we happened to talk about religion. For the life of me i can't recall why... And then i realised that his girlfriend's a Christian. Ah hah! No wonder nothing's happened to them even tho they had been together for 8 years... Was feeling proud of having a sister in Christ like her when he blurted out: "I go to church with her now and then, but she also goes bai-bai with me at temples..."
-.-"
Sigh... Can you understand how i felt then? And its not a uncommon thing, for girlfriends to lower their religious standards in order to keep their boyfriends. My boss' wife for one, gave up going to Church totally.
How do you tell someone about the REALness of your faith when people close to them, who are supposedly christians have portrayed the wrong image? I'm not saying that we should ACT like pharisees and be old stooges. I'm just saying that we should maintain our standards under ALL circumstances! There are things in our faith where NO means NO. There is no bargaining. There is no excuses "Oh, if i bend and go with him today, perhaps that would open a door for him to be more willing to come with me to church one day". No way. Its not about returning favours. He might do it as a favour, but trust me, in his eyes, in his heart, he already has this impression that hey, Christianity is not as fantastic as i thought it would be. Christians give up their stand so easily. Why should i listen to all their mumbo jumbo and be a so-called devout Christian when no one really is one?
A Christian he might become one day, a Sunday Christian. You're not opening a door, you're closing the door on him, and yourself.
I know, because i've lowered my standards once before, and because of that, i was unable to say anything "holy" or "righteous" to that person.
I know its kinda hard to understand. I'm not exactly sure how i can explain more clearly. Maybe someone who understands can help out? Gotta rush back to the Ops Room now... On 24hr duty today, already slacked off for an hour here haha... ^^
Anyway, did i mention that he shared with me sometime last week that he's losing it? As in he feels that he's turning into a sex freak soon, and that i'm not to be surprised if his face shows up on the papers one day for molest of rape or something along those lines... Yup, a true blue poly-kia who's still a virgin at 21. Not bad huh? For a non-Christian especially. But too much porn and too much exposure to stories that people tell about their sexual escapades is getting to him >.< From what i know, his girlfriend's a good girl who he does't want to defile... So much so that he's ALMOST ready to find someone other than her to DO IT...
Well, i shared my experience with him, and hopefully that'll keep him intact for a while more.
***
So back to today. Over a normal conversation over lunch with the rest of the guys, we happened to talk about religion. For the life of me i can't recall why... And then i realised that his girlfriend's a Christian. Ah hah! No wonder nothing's happened to them even tho they had been together for 8 years... Was feeling proud of having a sister in Christ like her when he blurted out: "I go to church with her now and then, but she also goes bai-bai with me at temples..."
-.-"
Sigh... Can you understand how i felt then? And its not a uncommon thing, for girlfriends to lower their religious standards in order to keep their boyfriends. My boss' wife for one, gave up going to Church totally.
How do you tell someone about the REALness of your faith when people close to them, who are supposedly christians have portrayed the wrong image? I'm not saying that we should ACT like pharisees and be old stooges. I'm just saying that we should maintain our standards under ALL circumstances! There are things in our faith where NO means NO. There is no bargaining. There is no excuses "Oh, if i bend and go with him today, perhaps that would open a door for him to be more willing to come with me to church one day". No way. Its not about returning favours. He might do it as a favour, but trust me, in his eyes, in his heart, he already has this impression that hey, Christianity is not as fantastic as i thought it would be. Christians give up their stand so easily. Why should i listen to all their mumbo jumbo and be a so-called devout Christian when no one really is one?
A Christian he might become one day, a Sunday Christian. You're not opening a door, you're closing the door on him, and yourself.
I know, because i've lowered my standards once before, and because of that, i was unable to say anything "holy" or "righteous" to that person.
I know its kinda hard to understand. I'm not exactly sure how i can explain more clearly. Maybe someone who understands can help out? Gotta rush back to the Ops Room now... On 24hr duty today, already slacked off for an hour here haha... ^^
posted by Justus at 7:27 PM
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